If you were to ask most people what the key to greater confidence is, they’d say success. The more successful you are, the more confident you become…or so their thinking goes. But is that true?
During a discussion about this with my nephews at Thanksgiving, one of them noted that a common characteristic among the Furtwengler clan is that we’re not afraid to be wrong. Our confidence comes not from being right, but from our ability to learn and adapt when we’re wrong.
Our confidence in our ability to learn and adapt as well as a realization that we learn more from our mistakes than from successes enables us to free ourselves of the fear of being wrong. That doesn’t mean that we fail to gain confidence from our successes, we do. But we have more opportunities to gain confidence because we’re willing to be wrong and able to learn from our mistakes.
It’s counterintuitive, but being wrong can dramatically increase your confidence when you know that you can learn and adapt and you realize that you learn a great deal more from your mistakes than you do from your successes.
Eliminate your fear of being wrong and you too can enhance your confidence.